So as 2019 begins, I thought I would love to share the 8 things I have learnt from last year. 2018 was such an amazing year for me, it was the year I lived in London during my placement and at the same time also saved up for my rent in Bath. I am really proud about this. I also had a birthday month !! YES A MONTH of being 21. I got to go to Paris, where I really found what I want to go into when I leave university in 2019! But anyway here are my 8 lessons learnt:
01- Learning my own value
I have been the sort of person that has always undermined and undervalued myself. This has often lead to me not stand up for myself or what I believe in. Because I didn’t release how I should be treated from others I often held onto toxic friendships which didn’t do me any good. I have also released so much of my own value in the workplace. Now that I understand how I should be treated from the people around me this leads to relationships that are far more enriching to my life and better me as a person instead of leaving me feeling undermined.
02- Take time for myself
Living in London is exhausting lets be honest, burn outs are commonplace. I myself am such an all or nothing person so coming into London from Bath I just wanted to get involved in everything, church, sports, arts everything! I initially got into so much I had no time for myself and no time to unwind.
03- Finding your own style and aesthetic
It has been such a journey for me personally in finding what I am truly comfortable in. Like the clothes that you wear are such an extension of yourself and personality, they are the things that truly embody you. So like finding what you are love wearing makes you feel so much better wearing them.
04- Being more mindful
Mindfulness must be the word of this year, it is such a big ‘thing’ now. And whilst some practices of mindfulness are not my style others I think are revolutionary. Something that I am aiming for next year is being more mindful of the clothes I am buying and making timeless purchases rather then impulse buying.
05- Showing love to everyone
Although I am a very loving and positive person in general I have in the past struggled with showing love to those people that have done things wrong to me or let me down. Its such a learning curve. And one thought that has really motivated me is that the way that you lead by example inspires so many other people.
06- Appreciate each and everyday
Everyday is such a gift to us and although I have been pretty grateful for everything I have I never really made a conscious effort to step back and realise just how blessed I am.
07- Understand when to let go of people
Letting go of friendships and relationships is really hard thing to do. Its easy to get a false image of people that isn’t true, leading to toxic situations. I have learnt the hard way to listen to my head rather then my heart in letting go of people that are leading me away and are not adding value to my life.
08- Appreciating elderly people
So this may seem like an odd one to mention but during my placement I shared a house with a 80 year old woman and initially I had so many negative emotions about this, I literally cried for days since I wanted to live with someone my age. But like after a month of living with this woman I released just how wise and knowledgable she was! Like elderly people have so much life experience they can impart it is amazing.